Wednesday, January 20, 2010

i miss you.

It's okay to be sad sometimes. I know for me, that's not an easy concept. 

We learn to be strong, to be graceful, to be "a rock" when faced with loss. Whether that loss is a job, a relationship, a dream, your health, or the death of a loved one, the process is the same. According to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her book, On Death and Dying, there are 5 stages to loss: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. How we each experience these stages is individual and personal. It is important to give yourself the space and freedom to feel and experience the richness that exists within these emotions.  

And, it is true, it does change with time... I can't say it's exactly "easier" but it certainly becomes different. It's not easy. It's never easy. But honor your feelings, honor yourself, and do your best. A loss is not a reason to give up. It is an invitation to shift your focus, to set your intention, to move forward. Share yourself with those you love, take the time to enjoy what moves you, live your passion.

And sometimes the feelings will sneak up on you. Feel it. Enjoy it (even if it makes you cry a lot). Let it move through you. Be thankful that you loved someone (or something) so much that you feel it so powerfully... even many years later. Take care of yourself. hope you're well, big kiss xxtbone


  1. Thanks I loved your post. Was it your sister's birthday? Whatever brought upon this thoughtful prose I am grateful to you for sharing your heart.

  2. Thanks Mary, you are so sweet. I appreciate your appreciation :). It was in fact a combination of my sister's birthday, and the anniversary of the passing of my dear friend who died of a heart attack at the age of 32. Thanks for reading, and loving... xoxo

  3. That was so beautiful and spoken with such care and honesty. Sending love and warmth your way, you are an inspiration to me.

  4. Thanks Hannah, you are an inspiration to me as well. big hug xoxo